I watched the Bachelor last night and cried alongside the rest of America. I had JoJo going all the way from Day 1. I always pick the girl with the best eyebrows, and this was the first time I’ve been wrong. (Not just about this, but ever.) I’m also really happy for Ben’s new fiancé, Lauren B. She’s unrealistically beautiful, and all beautiful people deserve to find love. There are far too many single, perfect, tiny, blonde women walking around out there on long, tan legs; it breaks my heart.
But despite the dramatic heartbreak and all the love, the best part of the finale last night was the arrival and constant presence of Bachelor Ben’s pastor. He was introduced early on during the live show and briefly appeared before and after each commercial break. It was a nice reminder that some things in life will always be there. Whether or not the Ben in your life wants to marry you, you can be sure that his pastor will be standing by, just in case.
Pastor Dan (I don’t remember if they ever said his name, so I made up one for him) was so patient, waiting for Ben to make up his mind. We all rejoiced alongside Pastor Dan when Ben ignored both logic and emotion and instead made his decision by looking at a piece of jewelry. We were not rejoicing because of whom he chose, but rather we were rejoicing at the fact that he finally made a damn decision after like 45 minutes of “I’m in love with two women and I don’t know what to do.” We understand that you’re torn, Ben, but we have laundry to do and food to eat and we don’t have time to sit around and watch you say the same thing over and over. I would’ve rather watched more footage of Pastor Dan reading his Bible in the corner.
You may be thinking well, Katie, an easy solution would have been to turn off the Bachelor and do your laundry and eat your food. And to that I say: I don’t like choosing the easy path. People who change the world don’t do so by choosing what’s easy, readers. And for the record, I ate my food during the show. Dairy-free Ben & Jerry’s – my own personal Bachelor Ben(& Jerry’s).
In order to keep viewership high throughout the finale, Chris Harrison teased of the first ever on-air marriage ceremony to happen at the end: hence, Pastor Dan’s purpose. Although we all know Ben well enough to assume that he is not shallow enough to get married on television – even though he fell in love (twice) and proposed (twice) on television – a shameful part of us hoped a wedding would happen so that Pastor Dan would actually get to speak. This shameful part of us is the same one that led us to the Bachelor franchise in the first place.
All season long, it was all about Ben’s destiny. We tuned in weekly to watch our beloved bachelor date women who were so uncompromisingly not us. But as soon as America met Pastor Dan, the tables turned. It became all about Pastor Dan’s destiny: would he get to marry Ben and some woman? Would he finally get to sit down? Would we get to hear what his voice sounds like? Does he have a voice? Does he have a name? My heart raced with each new Dan-related question until finally, his destiny was revealed.
Ben and Lauren turned down the on-air ceremony opportunity. They crushed Chris Harrison’s hopes, they crushed Dan’s one job, they crushed America.
Frankly, it’ll take a while to overcome the pain I felt at the refusal of Pastor Dan’s participation, and I can only hope he shows up again on another reality show. I think the Kardashians may actually need him. But just remember, relationships may come and go, but Pastor Dan will always be there, standing, waiting, reading his Bible alone, pretending all of this is real.