I’ve only been working in Hollywood for a few weeks and, granted, I’m simply a lowly intern, but I’ve already been witness to the unbelievably rampant sexism in this industry (and just in general). So let’s get something straight, once and for all: men are more than just pieces of meat.
Ladies, be honest. At least a few times in your life, you’ve noticed a hott gentleman walking down the street or at a bar and been tempted to whistle at him or use one of your creative, well-thought-out pickup lines. I hope most of you resisted that urge. But, realistically, I know a lot of you went through with it.
Dudes have enough problems without also being burdened with shielding women from their tempting physical beauty. It’s common knowledge that boys dress for other boys; a female’s opinion probably doesn’t even enter his decision-making process when he reaches for that tight white V-neck. So, just because he prefers clothes that feature his best assets doesn’t give us the right to assume it’s strictly for our pleasure. Yes, that man is wearing a smokin’ hott flannel and glasses. By no means should I insinuate that he wants me to ask for his number and then call it right there on the spot to ensure its validity.
And if you decide to be that creep who egotistically approaches him on his Boys Night Out, at least buy drinks for his whole crew. They’re all well aware of the gender wage gap and they know you can afford it.*
Men are constantly judged solely by their appearance. Can we not accept that they have brains and feelings as well? I can’t even count the number of casting calls I’ve seen for “sexy male extra in dramedy about a female surgeon” or “tall, muscular man to be eye candy for successful businesswoman lead.” I just hope one day, we put more of an emphasis on his talent than on his chest size. Not that men can’t have both. Am I right, Hugh Jackman? But it certainly needs to be more of a balance.
These dudes are human beings. Human beings who sometimes don’t feel like shaving their faces or waxing their chests. And when those times come, let’s not make them feel unworthy or ignored. Each one has a voice and a unique perspective to bring to the table. Each one matters. His weight may be fluctuating, but his work ethic grows stronger each day.
So girls, next time you consider approaching a man at a club and insisting he go home with you, think about your dad, your brother, your nephew. Would you want them to experience that kind of pressure? Would you want them to have to endure a line like “Your body is on fire. Luckily I’m a firewoman.”? (Reconsider that line anyway, ladies – it doesn’t particularly make sense.) Stop assuming every fellow you meet is dying for your attention or approval. Sometimes boys just wanna have fun.
*It was recently brought to my attention that women do not in fact make more money than men on average. I apologize for this inaccuracy.